What Are You Doing Right Now
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@travisdh1 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@RojoLoco said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
Just got into the office, had to stop by the datacenter this morning because when we switched ISPs and got a new public IP block, we broke all the branch office VPN tunnels
How @RojoLoco learned to better appreciate the use of FQDN?
I do appreciate that, but our firewalls take IPs for the VPN tunnels. No biggie, we only lost remote configuration capabilities for one evening.
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OMG, sooooo many "can't reach DNS server" and "can't contact DC" errors on those datacenter servers now....
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Just got to work. I'm dressed up for the wake I have to go to later, which a lot of people are surprised by how nicely I clean up. Lol
I just wish I still had a proper suit with all the amenities.
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@thanksajdotcom said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
I just wish I still had a proper suit with all the amenities.
Amenities?
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@Reid-Cooper said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@thanksajdotcom said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
I just wish I still had a proper suit with all the amenities.
Amenities?
Proper dress shoes, my tie clips (I used to have a small but nice collection), long and dark socks, etc.
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@thanksajdotcom said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@Reid-Cooper said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@thanksajdotcom said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
I just wish I still had a proper suit with all the amenities.
Amenities?
Proper dress shoes, my tie clips (I used to have a small but nice collection), long and dark socks, etc.
I wore suits 3x/week, at least, for most of my life.
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@thanksajdotcom said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@Reid-Cooper said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@thanksajdotcom said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
I just wish I still had a proper suit with all the amenities.
Amenities?
Proper dress shoes, my tie clips (I used to have a small but nice collection), long and dark socks, etc.
Maybe accoutrements then
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@thanksajdotcom said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
Just got to work. I'm dressed up for the wake I have to go to later, which a lot of people are surprised by how nicely I clean up. Lol
I just wish I still had a proper suit with all the amenities.
I got a proper black suit when I had to go to my grandmother's funeral. With a black shirt and tie, I look like a hitman (not a bad thing). I'll be pimping around in said suit once the weather cools down a bit.
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So my fiance most likely wants kids. If I had some kind of guarantee (which no one ever does) that my child would have a full life I would probably be on board, but I have crippling anxiety about being responsible for a human life in the world we live in. I've had small conversations about this here and there with some ML peeps. I'm not a very vulnerable person in general, mostly because of bullying in my life, but a child is the one thing that I would never be able to push out. That is the height of vulnerability IMO. Kids with cancer scares the hell out of me and I'm not even a parent yet.I just don't know how I can reconcile the risks associated with having a kid because you can do everything right and still lose your child--something I don't think I'd ever recover from honestly. Thoughts from ML dads (and everyone else)?
Interested to hear @coliver 's opinion especially since he just became a Dad.
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@wirestyle22 there is no simple answer there, there is no way for there to be. Every day as a dad is very scary. But think about it in the opposite way... would you want to not fall in love for fear of them leaving you? Clearly you made the choice of taking that risk because loving and losing is better than not loving at all. Same with kids, but even moreso. Every kid you don't have is one you never have.
At the end of the day, it's a personal decision of course. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with not having kids. That's a perfectly valid choice. But think of it this way, the more than you fear something going wrong with your kids, the more that that means you would appreciate having had them.
I know friends with kids with severe health problems, and don't know any that regret the decision to have them.
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And, of course, as a dad, there is nothing as great as being a parent. My kids are my best friends, we have so much fun together and spend all of our time together. I've never found anything remotely as rewarding as being a dad.
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@scottalanmiller said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@thanksajdotcom said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@Reid-Cooper said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@thanksajdotcom said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
I just wish I still had a proper suit with all the amenities.
Amenities?
Proper dress shoes, my tie clips (I used to have a small but nice collection), long and dark socks, etc.
Maybe accoutrements then
I used to own over 100 ties. I had quite a collection. My best friend in Texas has a bunch of them now.
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@scottalanmiller I understand your points. The risk of getting into a relationship with someone to me is so much lower. It's like playing roulette. In a relationship you put down $1000. If you lose, it sucks. If you win, it's great. Having a child is like putting your entire savings down and if you lose, your life is over. I know this sounds dramatic but I actually don't understand how a person can recover from losing a child. It's one of the worst things I can think of. Scares the hell out of me.
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@wirestyle22 Being a parent is frightening, overwhelming, and amazing. I watched my then six year old fall from a tree and break her arm. I still can't watch her climb trees. It freaks me out, and I relive that moment every time. But I wouldn't trade her for anything. Parenting is hard, but if you're willing to put your fiance first and then your kids over everything else (especially the job), it will be more rewarding than anything else you have ever done.
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@Kelly I don't doubt the reward. It's not even a responsibility thing for me anymore. I think I will sit inside and worry constantly. I worry now about a fictional child, look at this situation. It's sad lol. I know how much I would love it and that scares the hell out of me. I don't know where to go with that kind of a feeling.
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@wirestyle22 Don't not do something just because you're scarred, ever! Especially kids! The one and only thing that me and my wife regretted was her inability to have children. Yes, tragedies do happen, but they're the vast minority.
Most things, like cancer, are also totally treatable without the insanity the US puts people through. Mexico (yeah, seems crazy I know) chrisbeatcancer.com story. It's all about what you know, and you're hooked into some good places to find out.
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@Kelly said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@wirestyle22 Being a parent is frightening, overwhelming, and amazing. I watched my then six year old fall from a tree and break her arm. I still can't watch her climb trees. It freaks me out, and I relive that moment every time. But I wouldn't trade her for anything. Parenting is hard, but if you're willing to put your fiance first and then your kids over everything else (especially the job), it will be more rewarding than anything else you have ever done.
Mine fell out of a tree, and whil;e she didn't break her arm, she fell about 2 inches away from one of our yard light stakes, which would have been bad.
It still scares the hell out of me, but I let her climb trees. I was raised to never climb the tree again, and that's 180 degrees opposie of what I want to teach my kids.
I hear you though. Trees!
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@travisdh1 I think ultimately it will come down to whether or not I take the leap. I'm obsessively thinking about it right now.
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Another big family BBQ
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I think as a parent I had more (after he wasn't little anymore). I want to kill him moments than anything else
right @Mike-Ralston ?
