Well - this vendor has called me back this morning (last bit of information was passed from the owner from a conversation they had with the vendor).
The vendor knows we are looking for remote access - specifically so we can run reports from home.
rep said - oh, you need that OK sure, fine - give me the user and their home IP and I'll get that added.
me - uh - home ISPs change IPs, sometimes daily - how are we supposed to keep you updated?
rep - oh - they'll have to give us the new IP so we can add it
me - /sigh - does your system support dynamic DNS based OK I screwed up - I should have just asked - Can you put an internet resolvable host name in your list instead of an IP?
rep - oh yeah I know what DDNS is
me - ok do you support it?
rep - well if you're attaching to your server using some type of VPN
me - no, that's not what DDNS is, I explain DDNS
rep - oh, I don't know if our system supports hostnames
me - can you check?
rep - sure
click
Of course this kinda flies in the face of the licensing issue the owner was told, but there's still hope - though very very little.