Ransomware Management Career Fork
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@dafyre said in Cerber virus/ransomware making the rounds...:
@wirestyle22 said in Cerber virus/ransomware making the rounds...:
I am in negotiations currently for a sizable raise or I walk. The issue is my fiance doesn't enjoy the risk/reward of it.
What? She doesn't want you to make more money? ... or she doesn't want you to be out of a job?
The risk of losing my job. She is a worrier though and doesn't understand the market for IT professionals. It's very much in favor of the employee not the company trying to fill the position.
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@wirestyle22 said in Cerber virus/ransomware making the rounds...:
@dafyre said in Cerber virus/ransomware making the rounds...:
@wirestyle22 said in Cerber virus/ransomware making the rounds...:
I am in negotiations currently for a sizable raise or I walk. The issue is my fiance doesn't enjoy the risk/reward of it.
What? She doesn't want you to make more money? ... or she doesn't want you to be out of a job?
The risk of losing my job. She is a worrier though and doesn't understand the market for IT professionals
Did you give them the ultimatum? "Pay raise or I'm outta here" ?
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@dafyre said in Cerber virus/ransomware making the rounds...:
@wirestyle22 said in Cerber virus/ransomware making the rounds...:
@dafyre said in Cerber virus/ransomware making the rounds...:
@wirestyle22 said in Cerber virus/ransomware making the rounds...:
I am in negotiations currently for a sizable raise or I walk. The issue is my fiance doesn't enjoy the risk/reward of it.
What? She doesn't want you to make more money? ... or she doesn't want you to be out of a job?
The risk of losing my job. She is a worrier though and doesn't understand the market for IT professionals
Did you give them the ultimatum? "Pay raise or I'm outta here" ?
No I said I'm very unhappy with my current salary. When I negotiated my salary the list of responsibilities was nowhere near the requirements of the job and I want to be compensated.
They definitely understand they are going to lose me but I never approach employers with threats. Not a good negotiation tactic imo.
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@wirestyle22 said in Cerber virus/ransomware making the rounds...:
@dafyre said in Cerber virus/ransomware making the rounds...:
@wirestyle22 said in Cerber virus/ransomware making the rounds...:
@dafyre said in Cerber virus/ransomware making the rounds...:
@wirestyle22 said in Cerber virus/ransomware making the rounds...:
I am in negotiations currently for a sizable raise or I walk. The issue is my fiance doesn't enjoy the risk/reward of it.
What? She doesn't want you to make more money? ... or she doesn't want you to be out of a job?
The risk of losing my job. She is a worrier though and doesn't understand the market for IT professionals
Did you give them the ultimatum? "Pay raise or I'm outta here" ?
No I said I'm very unhappy with my current salary. When I negotiated my salary the list of responsibilities was nowhere near the requirements of the job and I want to be compensated.
They definitely understand they are going to lose me but I never approach employers with threats. Not a good negotiation tactic imo.
Unless you already have a plan B job lined up... My problem is I am loyal to the people around me. I feel guilty as a snake for leaving them behind...but at the end of the day, I gotta look out for me and my family.
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@wirestyle22 said in Cerber virus/ransomware making the rounds...:
@dafyre said in Cerber virus/ransomware making the rounds...:
@wirestyle22 said in Cerber virus/ransomware making the rounds...:
I am in negotiations currently for a sizable raise or I walk. The issue is my fiance doesn't enjoy the risk/reward of it.
What? She doesn't want you to make more money? ... or she doesn't want you to be out of a job?
The risk of losing my job. She is a worrier though and doesn't understand the market for IT professionals. It's very much in favor of the employee not the company trying to fill the position.
But doesn't she worry that staying will cripple your career? A true worrier should be more worried for you staying, as that is the riskier move, right? It's not that she is a worrier that is the problem, that's proximate. Look for the root. Why is she worried about the potential for being out of a job today and not worried about the future of a dramatically hampered career and long term earnings and long term job stability?
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@wirestyle22 This is the fork that you are looking for.
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But doesn't she worry that staying will cripple your career? A true worrier should be more worried for you staying, as that is the riskier move, right? It's not that she is a worrier that is the problem, that's proximate. Look for the root. Why is she worried about the potential for being out of a job today and not worried about the future of a dramatically hampered career and long term earnings and long term job stability?
From her perspective I have an unbelievable amount of job security, which is true. I could be here for the rest of my life if I wanted to. Between the two of us we will be making around $140k a year. From her standpoint that is more than enough for us. From my standpoint I'm making ob the bottom 20% of my peers. That isn't okay regardless of the situation.
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@wirestyle22 Yeah she's looking at you life and saying, we have enough, we don't need more (today).
But what she isn't seeing is that at another company someone doing the same job is making way more money for exactly the same work.
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@wirestyle22 said in Ransomware Management Career Fork:
From her perspective I have an unbelievable amount of job security, which is true. I could be here for the rest of my life if I wanted to.
That's never true. Those are the statements that I hear from the people with the least job security. Jobs like that are the ones that decrease your pay over time, increase your hours, or go out of business. Thinking that way is very, very risky thinking. Over time you atrophy and the company knows that you lose value and can't find other work. Find any company that doesn't leverage that over time.
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@DustinB3403 said in Ransomware Management Career Fork:
@wirestyle22 Yeah she's looking at you life and saying, we have enough, we don't need more (today).
But what she isn't seeing is that at another company someone doing the same job is making way more money for exactly the same work.
Right but shes coming from a place where she has her masters degree and operated as the working poor for 7 years. Like everyone she is applying her own experiences to the situation. I agree with you guys.
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@wirestyle22 said in Ransomware Management Career Fork:
Right but shes coming from a place where she has her masters degree and operated as the working poor for 7 years. Like everyone she is applying her own experiences to the situation.
I'm unclear how her experience would lead her to taking long term career risks today. What does getting a master's degree and not making much money for a long time have to do with wanting you to risk your financial options and stability down the road?
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If anything, having a Master's degree, one would hope that the lessons around perceived risk and how to protect your long term earnings and good thinking around life investing, critical thinking and such would be things she was practising for seven years. A good university experience should teach her to not be fearful of short term risk when used for long term stability.
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@scottalanmiller said in Ransomware Management Career Fork:
@wirestyle22 said in Ransomware Management Career Fork:
Right but shes coming from a place where she has her masters degree and operated as the working poor for 7 years. Like everyone she is applying her own experiences to the situation.
I'm unclear how her experience would lead her to taking long term career risks today. What does getting a master's degree and not making much money for a long time have to do with wanting you to risk your financial options and stability down the road?
She sees the world from a perspective as someone who has a higher degree of knowledge and little opportunity. She would be more likely to take less risk. I am of the opposite opinion. We are young and should be taking a lot of smart risks.
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@scottalanmiller said in Ransomware Management Career Fork:
If anything, having a Master's degree, one would hope that the lessons around perceived risk and how to protect your long term earnings and good thinking around life investing, critical thinking and such would be things she was practising for seven years. A good university experience should teach her to not be fearful of short term risk when used for long term stability.
Right but based on her experiences it could be long term risk. She can't accurately see the situation for what it is.
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@wirestyle22 said in Ransomware Management Career Fork:
@scottalanmiller said in Ransomware Management Career Fork:
@wirestyle22 said in Ransomware Management Career Fork:
Right but shes coming from a place where she has her masters degree and operated as the working poor for 7 years. Like everyone she is applying her own experiences to the situation.
I'm unclear how her experience would lead her to taking long term career risks today. What does getting a master's degree and not making much money for a long time have to do with wanting you to risk your financial options and stability down the road?
She sees the world from a perspective as someone who has a higher degree of knowledge and little opportunity. She would be more likely to take less risk.
Exactly, yet in this case she's being reckless, both with your stability and income as well as with your options.
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@scottalanmiller said in Ransomware Management Career Fork:
@wirestyle22 said in Ransomware Management Career Fork:
Right but shes coming from a place where she has her masters degree and operated as the working poor for 7 years. Like everyone she is applying her own experiences to the situation.
I'm unclear how her experience would lead her to taking long term career risks today. What does getting a master's degree and not making much money for a long time have to do with wanting you to risk your financial options and stability down the road?
She's responding with emotions, not with logic @scottalanmiller. She's saying you shouldn't take the risk now because things are OK, we have enough (my GF is saying the same things to me) but if we don't throw those dice, we are taking an even bigger gamble that she isn't accounting for.
It's an emotional response not a logical one in these cases. And only responding in a way that they might understand would get them to change their minds. You should understand that.
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@scottalanmiller said in Ransomware Management Career Fork:
@wirestyle22 said in Ransomware Management Career Fork:
@scottalanmiller said in Ransomware Management Career Fork:
@wirestyle22 said in Ransomware Management Career Fork:
Right but shes coming from a place where she has her masters degree and operated as the working poor for 7 years. Like everyone she is applying her own experiences to the situation.
I'm unclear how her experience would lead her to taking long term career risks today. What does getting a master's degree and not making much money for a long time have to do with wanting you to risk your financial options and stability down the road?
She sees the world from a perspective as someone who has a higher degree of knowledge and little opportunity. She would be more likely to take less risk.
Exactly, yet in this case she's being reckless, both with your stability and income as well as with your options.
She would support me regardless but would definitely have a lot of anxiety.
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@wirestyle22 said in Ransomware Management Career Fork:
Right but based on her experiences it could be long term risk. She can't accurately see the situation for what it is.
What is her experience that causes this? Is she of the opinion that school makes you so unemployable that you can't risk giving up low paying jobs? You didn't go to school, right? Why is she applying that fear to you? That feels like the opposite of leveraging her experience.
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@DustinB3403 said in Ransomware Management Career Fork:
She's responding with emotions, not with logic @scottalanmiller.
That's fine, but that's not applying experience. That's ignoring experience.
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@scottalanmiller said in Ransomware Management Career Fork:
@wirestyle22 said in Ransomware Management Career Fork:
Right but based on her experiences it could be long term risk. She can't accurately see the situation for what it is.
What is her experience that causes this? Is she of the opinion that school makes you so unemployable that you can't risk giving up low paying jobs? You didn't go to school, right? Why is she applying that fear to you? That feels like the opposite of leveraging her experience.
Lack of opportunity is the experience influencing her. That is an emotional response for sure.
