Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be
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This is almost starting to feel like Stockholm Syndrome. All the signs are flashing bright red that the employer is abusive. A blind man could see it. Yet we have the sympathy for the boss and the company who is abusive on a VERY regular basis.
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Here are my recommendations
- NO NEGOTIATING of ANY KIND
It is time to just leave the relationship in an abrupt way. No offers to work ANY additional hours or any additional projects. I seriously wouldn't even entertain offers for $100 an hour at this point. Just like an abusive spouse, they will offer anything to make you happy again and just start taking advantage again. They have repeatedly abused you by taking away pay, demanding unrealistic things, and even worse pay you for a part time gig while expecting you to automate everything and use as little hours as possible. When you lay it all out there it is terrrible. Why would you consider extending a relationship or making any negotiations. At this point, NO NEGOTIATING should occur. How can you trust this party to change their ways when they have a history of screwing you 15 ways to Sunday.
- They will NEVER appreciate you so FUCK em
No matter how much documentation and automation you perform, it will never be enough. They are going to have a BAD opinion of you after you leave no matter what, because they are pieces of shit and that is what people like that do. There is no way you can ever leave with them being happy. So CUT THE TIES NOW!!!
- They spend ALOT of time and money in IT apparently
It sounds like your bosses have alot of time on their hands to devote to IT, even though they seem to not want to spend a cent. It sounds like they had time to examine all the documentation, come up with priorities, and literally write a game plan for you to leave. What non-IT management has time to do that kind of shit within the same day and the next day after your announcement. Obviously IT is a big concern for them, but they are either too stupid or proud to admit it.
- This place is DESTROYING YOU
Your career , at best, is being held up considerably by this employer. I know you run a side business, but this job is taking alot of your time. Not only is it taking your time, but you are constantly implementing bad practices because company is extremely cheap and wont pay for things that cost $1 a month per user, but have no problem paying you 10 hours at $35-50 an hour. It makes no sense and is extremely bad practice. You are doing this stuff over and over again, day by day. It may not effect you every single day, but long term it has a bad negative effect. You aren't doing things by best practice. Once you step away, you will see this immediately.
I CAN SAY ALL THIS BECAUSE I HAVE EXPERIENCED IT. I AM SO HAPPY TO BE WHERE I AM NOW IN MY CAREER
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Make sure you did absolutely everything within the local employment code/law - proper notice time, everything documented and the management signed off on.
I had exactly one horrid employer in my life. When I found a way to leave, I did everything by the book, with a checklist, because I knew they sued everyone who left them, every time.
When I left, my friends at the office told me they were meeting with a lawyer the very same day. Nothing came of it, because I didn't give them anything to base a lawsuit on, but the fact that they tried remains.
As a bonus, I found out they lost 3 of their largest customers (~$4.5M/year) as soon as I left.
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@dyasny said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
Make sure you did absolutely everything within the local employment code/law - proper notice time, everything documented and the management signed off on.
I had exactly one horrid employer in my life. When I found a way to leave, I did everything by the book, with a checklist, because I knew they sued everyone who left them, every time.
When I left, my friends at the office told me they were meeting with a lawyer the very same day. Nothing came of it, because I didn't give them anything to base a lawsuit on, but the fact that they tried remains.
As a bonus, I found out they lost 3 of their largest customers (~$4.5M/year) as soon as I left.
He is a regular employee without any specific contract. There is nothing to do except walk out the door.
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@JaredBusch said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
He is a regular employee without any specific contract. There is nothing to do except walk out the door.
There's usually the local employment code dictated by the state/province/etc. All disputes are typically regulated according to that, superseded only by whatever additional terms are mentioned in a signed contract. If there is no contract, there's only the law. If there is no contract, an employee (and employer) are still in an employment relationship, governed by that law.
Typically it's that law that states you need to give X weeks of notice, and the same law that protects the employee from not getting paid for those weeks.
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@dyasny said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
Typically it's that law that states you need to give X weeks of notice, and the same law that protects the employee from not getting paid for those weeks.
Not in states that are "employment at will". Plus he has no contract. He could've just walked without discussing with anyone and never showed up again.
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@DustinB3403 so he walks out the door, and the employer refuses to pay what is owed for the last month. And there is no regulation for such a case? Damn, I wouldn't want to live in a place where this is the norm.
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@dyasny said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
@DustinB3403 so he walks out the door, and the employer refuses to pay what is owed for the last month. And there is no regulation for such a case? Damn, I wouldn't want to live in a place where this is the norm.
No. . .
But he can walk and gets paid for what he'd worked.
Who said anything about him not being paid for the time he's already worked?
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@DustinB3403 said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
No. . .
But he can walk and gets paid for what he'd worked.
Who said anything about him not being paid for the time he's already worked?
If there is no regulation, who enforces the employer to pay?
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@Pete-S said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
When you work long enough in the same place, you start to think that you are responsible for it all. You know management don't have a clue. It's your systems that you manage. It's your solutions they are using. In reality, it's not.
It's their systems and they gave you money in exchange for your time. You are even with your employer each time you get paid. They invested money, you invested a piece of your life. Time you will never get back. That is the deal.
You have no responsibility for anything, except to do your job while you are getting paid. That is what being an employee is - a trade.
This is the problem you are having. You are confused about what the deal is and what your part is. Not who said what or what is reasonable, legal or whatever. But it's normal. It's why people become suffer from occupational burnout. Now you just have realize it.
Well said.
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@dyasny said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
@DustinB3403 said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
No. . .
But he can walk and gets paid for what he'd worked.
Who said anything about him not being paid for the time he's already worked?
If there is no regulation, who enforces the employer to pay?
The laws. . .
But there is no law that states you are forced to provide a certain amount of notice in "Employment at will" states. You can leave, fired or let go at any time without notice.
That is not the same law as being required to pay employees for time worked.
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@DustinB3403 I see. And there is no compensation involved? Some countries I worked in, if you are sacked, you get compensation, but if you decide to leave, you get nothing
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@dyasny said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
@DustinB3403 I see. And there is no compensation involved? Some countries I worked in, if you are sacked, you get compensation, but if you decide to leave, you get nothing
There could be, usually those are written into a contract. But those benefits do not always exist.
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@DustinB3403 said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
There could be, usually those are written into a contract. But those benefits do not always exist.
Guess I've been terribly spoiled by good conditions throughout my career then
I've only realised not all companies hand out company vehicles to all employees on my 16th year in IT -
@dyasny said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
@DustinB3403 I see. And there is no compensation involved? Some countries I worked in, if you are sacked, you get compensation, but if you decide to leave, you get nothing
In the UK it depends. If you are sacked due to gross misconduct you wont get any money. If you are made redundant, you will get a set amount based on length of employment (could be more, but by law its at least that set amount), and if you take voluntary redundancy, you get a package as setup by the former employer... so, it depends.
If you signed a contract for 3 months notice, usually you can negotiate to leave early if you really want. "Im going to give two months". But, if you just walk out you didnt mean your contractual obligations and that could have ramifications.
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@Jimmy9008 said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
In the UK it depends. If you are sacked due to gross misconduct you wont get any money. If you are made redundant, you will get a set amount based on length of employment (could be more, but by law its at least that set amount), and if you take voluntary redundancy, you get a package as setup by the former employer... so, it depends.
If you signed a contract for 3 months notice, usually you can negotiate to leave early if you really want. "Im going to give two months". But, if you just walk out you didnt mean your contractual obligations and that could have ramifications.
That's more what I'm used to seeing!
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What @Jimmy9008 posted and you @dyasny are used to seeing are "Contract Employees" in the US.
You're hired to work <usually some set length of time> and will be paid X with these benefits and these Exit options.
A normal hire in the US is, you're hired Fulltime/Parttime at X/hour(or salary) and work until you either quit or are terminated.
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@dyasny said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
@DustinB3403 so he walks out the door, and the employer refuses to pay what is owed for the last month. And there is no regulation for such a case? Damn, I wouldn't want to live in a place where this is the norm.
Of course they still owe him for any time worked. Him walking out the door/quitting has nothing to do with that. Sure they could make him sue them over it, but then he could likely go after some damages as well, I would assume that wouldn't be worth it to the company - just pay him and let him go.
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@DustinB3403 said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
@guyinpv said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
And all I wanted to do was open up a conversation so they could start looking for a replacement. I wasn't expecting a circus.What were you realistically expecting?
I think he was hoping for a "risk mitigation plan" but presented it incorrectly. What would have been good would have been a discussion without the idea of him leaving but a "I'm in a key man position because my boss isn't capable of doing her or my jobs, so we need to talk about how we are going to fix the risk of me getting hit by a bus." Present it that way and you are just doing your IT job. Talk about planning to leave and that's something they can pressure you out of or blame you for, but they can't stop you or blame you for getting killed.
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@DustinB3403 said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
@dyasny said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
@DustinB3403 I see. And there is no compensation involved? Some countries I worked in, if you are sacked, you get compensation, but if you decide to leave, you get nothing
There could be, usually those are written into a contract. But those benefits do not always exist.
Let's restate that - in the US, those benefits rarely exist, at least directly from the company. The person can file unemployment with the state, but that's a whole different ball game.
