CloudatCost OpenDNS Issue
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@thanksajdotcom said:
Most of the time that people argue with me trying to get me to admit I'm "wrong", they don't even realize that they are fighting the wrong fight. On most things, it's not that I'm fighting that I'm right. I'm just trying to explain that when the information I have goes into my head, the output is not what they're getting. My conclusion is not always right, although it many times has been. My conclusion is how my mind interprets the data and determines the result of the problem presented. Take it for what you will.
I have this problem too. Even when I am wrong, I feel the need to diagnose my thinking and determine how I got somewhere wrong. What's important, I think, is to either stop doing this OR figure out how to make it super duper clear that you know you are wrong, you aren't arguing, you aren't attempting to excuse anything and you just want to figure out what you did wrong and what lead you astray. If you don't make that crazily clear, people think you are arguing.
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Perhaps this will help, AJ:
When there's only one person going on about something, it's very easy to dismiss that person as a statistical outlier. A nutjob, if you will, out in left field. However, when EVERYONE is saying the same damn thing, it's time to stop trying to "explain" what's in your head and accept the fact that you made a mistake. Were wrong, as it were. At that point the moral/ethical/intelligent/wise thing to do is shut up, stop arguing, and simply accept that what you're hearing is the truth.
I say this not from a point of criticism, but of sincere desire to help. I was exactly the same way as you for many years. My 14 year old is that way now. Ultimately, nobody cares what's in your head. They care about what you DO. Learn to recognize when you're at the point in an argument.
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AJ, if you can't deal with the comments you get on here or in the other place then I pray to $DEITY that if you're posting on El Reg (which I assume is what you're alluding to) that you don't pull this sort of attitude over there.
Oh, I'm a member over there too.
This is going to bite you on the ass.
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http://www.mangolassi.it/topic/60/our-community-guidelines/2
It appears that I need to make some things clear in our guidelines once again. @thanksajdotcom especially please read these over again.
