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    • scottalanmillerS
      scottalanmiller
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      Youtube Video

      This is a good one for communities, like ours, to understand. There is no value if we choose to be polite, we only have value when we choose to be honest.

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      • Bill KindleB
        Bill Kindle
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        The older I get, the less I care about what people think of what I say. I tell it like I see it, and if the other person can't take it, that's on them.

        I always have the utmost respect for people who won't BS me, will be honest with me when I f*#$ up, but won't hate me forever for it. I might not like what I hear, but I will respect it.

        BS me though, yeah I can smell that a mile away.

        Also, honest side note.....very attractive red head too.

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        • thanksajdotcomT
          thanksajdotcom
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          Leaving this page open to come back to, but I prefer a harsh truth over a kind lie. A lie is never truly kind. I learned from a dear friend a couple years ago that when you #@$@ up, don't dance around it. Man up, own up and move on. If it means you lose the job, so be it. But don't play the blame game. Don't play the ignorance game. Be truthful, be forthright, and tell it like it is. Don't be afraid to speak up and be heard. If someone is attacking you, for legitimate or illegitimate reasons, you have a right to say your part and explain. Just don't lie or tell half-truths. Many employers would rather you tell them you screwed up, you won't let it happen again, and that you will work twice as hard to regain their trust over not admitting fault when it is yours to admit.

          I have learned this lesson earlier than most, I feel. Because of this, even by @scottalanmiller 's admission, I accept criticism much better than I did a few years ago. I embrace it as a chance to grow. I firmly believe that, no matter how horrendous at the present, every experience in life is a positive one. From suffering, we gain empathy. From pain, we gain insight and understanding. From success, we gain confidence. Anything in life can be used as a bettering experience, when applied to your mindset with the right attitude. Ok, that is all.

          /rant

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          • thanksajdotcomT
            thanksajdotcom
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            Ok, got around to watching it. It was really good!

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            • scottalanmillerS
              scottalanmiller
              last edited by

              It's definitely good stuff. If we surround ourselves by people who lie, we lose our view of the world.

              Surprisingly, though, the speaker says that no one ever said that they want people to lie to them. But in reality MOST people demand that people lie to them constantly.

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              • DashrenderD
                Dashrender @scottalanmiller
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                @scottalanmiller said:

                It's definitely good stuff. If we surround ourselves by people who lie, we lose our view of the world.

                Surprisingly, though, the speaker says that no one ever said that they want people to lie to them. But in reality MOST people demand that people lie to them constantly.

                Yeah I was thinking the same thing. Most people live in their own little bubble of a world and don't want it to come crashing down by someone telling them the truth.

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                • scottalanmillerS
                  scottalanmiller
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                  People hate the truth. IT people tend to be less like that than average people but even so.

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