A LIFE AND FATHER'S ISSUES, NOT TECH
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If your main goal was to educate, you'd have posted the whole story, then perhaps said, by the way, I've started a GFME page, if you want to donate, I'd appreciate it, or something to that effect.
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@MrWright4hire
I feel for you. I am a father. But you have to understand, you were not clear or accurate in your post.Let me explain why I was suspect by your post.
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This statement "Enclosed, please find the LINK that explains some of the issues I'm facing and what I would like to achieve globally." Is less than accurate in the first half and unclear/confusing in the second half. The link said LINK, not a verbose description of the link. The link goes to a shortened URL, one I did not recognize. "achieve globally"? I thought you were looking to advance your cause not ask for money.
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I did not recognize your name.
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I clicked on your profile link, and see that you have posts, reputation, and have been a member since 2014. This is good.
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But then I looked at the URL in your profile
HTTP://WWW.WRIGHTIT.ORGwhich of course doesn't work. It doesn't matter if this is a typo, or the faults of the BB software, in today's cyber attack age, careful internet users would never click that link from their daily driver.
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So even though I have no reason to have ill feelings toward you, and as a father, I do feel for you; I was very suspect.
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Your post link and profile URL lends itself to be possible spam/click bait.
So, no offense intended, I wish you well and success for your son.
I can honestly say, had I been given a more clear understand and been informed in advance you were looking for assistance to fund your cause, I would have contributed without hesitation. I may still choose to contribute, but all of this could have been avoided with clarity. -
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@Dashrender said in A LIFE AND FATHER'S ISSUES, NOT TECH:
If your main goal was to educate, you'd have posted the whole story, then perhaps said, by the way, I've started a GFME page, if you want to donate, I'd appreciate it, or something to that effect.
Instead you took the time to hide the link behind a link tag.Dash I guess you going to tell me how to wipe my butt too. I did it the way I felt like doing it. I didn't have any malice intent behind it. What's the difference between you clinking a link and decide that you don't want to read my story and or donate verses doing it the way you suggested? Are you so lazy that you sweat hard to click a mouse button and change your mind?
You have to stop forcing your standards on others and concluding that it's malice because someone did it different than how you would.
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@MrWright4hire said in A LIFE AND FATHER'S ISSUES, NOT TECH:
@Dashrender said in A LIFE AND FATHER'S ISSUES, NOT TECH:
If your main goal was to educate, you'd have posted the whole story, then perhaps said, by the way, I've started a GFME page, if you want to donate, I'd appreciate it, or something to that effect.
Instead you took the time to hide the link behind a link tag.Dash I guess you going to tell me how to wipe my butt too. I did it the way I felt like doing it. I didn't have any malice intent behind it. What's the difference between you clinking a link and decide that you don't want to read my story and or donate verses doing it the way you suggested? Are you so lazy that you sweat hard to click a mouse button and change your mind?
You have to stop forcing your standards on others and concluding that it's malice because someone did it different than how you would.
LOL - well, clearly I'm not alone in my opinion of your approach. Of course my approach isn't the only one, but leading with all the details instead of wetting the appetite then sending someone to a link a link you obfuscated, in a forum where people are IT professionals are are likely going to criticize that type of behavior, yeah.. just seems weird way to go.
Good luck with your fund raising.
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I can see that there's a changing of tone going on.
Before things get out of hand, I'd like to remind everyone of the community guidelines.Keep it civil.
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@MrWright4hire : Where in Ontario are you? Peel region? If Peel or GTA, I believe I know someone that can help out with your legal troubles... Feel free to PM me.
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The trickery was with willful intent, that much is easily clear from the wording and url shortening on a forum you can easily create a text link. Everyone knows its only done if there is something to hide.
Nothing wrong with asking for help and linking to funding help site, the issue is with the intentional deciet and lies, then defending it, and it also not really being the place for it IMO. Perhaps you would have much better luck on Facebook getting money and/or prayers.
Many of us are parents too, and feel for you, but wouldn't do what you did on here if in the same situation.
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@Obsolesce said in A LIFE AND FATHER'S ISSUES, NOT TECH:
The trickery was with willful intent, that much is easily clear from the wording and url shortening on a forum you can easily create a text link. Everyone knows its only done if there is something to hide.
Nothing wrong with asking for help and linking to funding help site, the issue is with the intentional deciet and lies, then defending it, and it also not really being the place for it IMO. Perhaps you would have much better luck on Facebook getting money and/or prayers.
Many of us are parents too, and feel for you, but wouldn't do what you did on here if in the same situation.
Obsolesce, you really should represent your name to the fullest. For the record, I asked if I could post on here before I posted. The shortening of the url isn't of my doing. It's what Go Fund provide you when they encourage you to share. I'm very transparent about my intentions, hence why I asked if I could post on here as well as share the content of what I was about to post before I posted it.
Nevertheless, the process that I took to post my story isn't as important as my story. However it's funny how you idiots, Yes I said idiots! Specifically the nay sayers and trouble makers. How you made the process more important than the my story. And how you added your own speculations as to me being trickery and trying to fool you guys is beyond absurd. That would be like taking a beat up Volts wagon on a race track trying to get some investors to sponsor me. No where did I state that I wanted anyone in my post to give money. All I asked was to bring some awareness.
You have now polluted my intentions to those who could possibly benefit from my story turn away from my story.
Thanks for nothing and increasing the stress that I'm already dealing with.
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@manxam said in A LIFE AND FATHER'S ISSUES, NOT TECH:
@MrWright4hire : Where in Ontario are you? Peel region? If Peel or GTA, I believe I know someone that can help out with your legal troubles... Feel free to PM me.
Thank you manxam. I really do appreciate this sir. I'll be reaching out after this message.
Thank you again for any assistance and or directions you can point me in.
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@JasGot said in A LIFE AND FATHER'S ISSUES, NOT TECH:
@MrWright4hire
I feel for you. I am a father. But you have to understand, you were not clear or accurate in your post.Let me explain why I was suspect by your post.
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This statement "Enclosed, please find the LINK that explains some of the issues I'm facing and what I would like to achieve globally." Is less than accurate in the first half and unclear/confusing in the second half. The link said LINK, not a verbose description of the link. The link goes to a shortened URL, one I did not recognize. "achieve globally"? I thought you were looking to advance your cause not ask for money.
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I did not recognize your name.
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I clicked on your profile link, and see that you have posts, reputation, and have been a member since 2014. This is good.
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But then I looked at the URL in your profile
HTTP://WWW.WRIGHTIT.ORGwhich of course doesn't work. It doesn't matter if this is a typo, or the faults of the BB software, in today's cyber attack age, careful internet users would never click that link from their daily driver.
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So even though I have no reason to have ill feelings toward you, and as a father, I do feel for you; I was very suspect.
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Your post link and profile URL lends itself to be possible spam/click bait.
So, no offense intended, I wish you well and success for your son.
I can honestly say, had I been given a more clear understand and been informed in advance you were looking for assistance to fund your cause, I would have contributed without hesitation. I may still choose to contribute, but all of this could have been avoided with clarity.JasGot now that I read how you so eloquently explained you and others position on the matter, I do apologize. I also want to apologize to Mango. Although I was given the go ahead, It wasn't my intention to give them a bad impression of any of their members.
I had just finished court and despite of all what the judge said about how it's only right for me to be in my son's life, her lawyer still writing up motions that shows other wise. As much as I do need funds for a representative. I equally want to bring awareness to the cause. There are soo much pain in father groups on social media. Should I be blessed to get custody of my boy, I will not give up on trying to figure out a way to help future parents, better yet, the kids who miss their mommy or daddy due to some stupid ish. We have to do better for our baby's sake.
Once again to all, with the exeption of the idiots. I do apologize. I wasn't thinking clearly. I was focusing on savign my son, other hurt parent and possibly saving other kids.
Even though I'm leaving my post up, JasGot I hope you and the others can f'give me. I apologize for not seeing it you guys way.
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@MrWright4hire said in A LIFE AND FATHER'S ISSUES, NOT TECH:
@Obsolesce said in A LIFE AND FATHER'S ISSUES, NOT TECH:
The trickery was with willful intent, that much is easily clear from the wording and url shortening on a forum you can easily create a text link. Everyone knows its only done if there is something to hide.
Nothing wrong with asking for help and linking to funding help site, the issue is with the intentional deciet and lies, then defending it, and it also not really being the place for it IMO. Perhaps you would have much better luck on Facebook getting money and/or prayers.
Many of us are parents too, and feel for you, but wouldn't do what you did on here if in the same situation.
Obsolesce, you really should represent your name to the fullest. For the record, I asked if I could post on here before I posted. The shortening of the url isn't of my doing. It's what Go Fund provide you when they encourage you to share. I'm very transparent about my intentions, hence why I asked if I could post on here as well as share the content of what I was about to post before I posted it.
Nevertheless, the process that I took to post my story isn't as important as my story. However it's funny how you idiots, Yes I said idiots! Specifically the nay sayers and trouble makers. How you made the process more important than the my story. And how you added your own speculations as to me being trickery and trying to fool you guys is beyond absurd. That would be like taking a beat up Volts wagon on a race track trying to get some investors to sponsor me. No where did I state that I wanted anyone in my post to give money. All I asked was to bring some awareness.
You have now polluted my intentions to those who could possibly benefit from my story turn away from my story.
Thanks for nothing and increasing the stress that I'm already dealing with.
Perhaps next time, you can make your intentions clear in your intro so there is no confusion or potential misleading.
Something like you want to raise awareness of X issue and ask for monetary help to get through it personally and to aid in spreading awareness, then the link to read more and to donate if interested.
You say you feel you were transparent with your intentions, and had that been true, you would not have received all these reactions showing otherwise. How you worded it clearly had bad results and everyone clearly felt mislead. That is not our fault, and being called idiots and being told to die because of your mistakes is absolutely not warranted.
